When the word stepparents is brought up, what traits come in to your mind? One of the most popular stepparent is the wicked stepmother in Cinderella, especially the 1950 animated movie 'Cinderella' made by Disney. Stepparents may not always be the original or biological parent to the child and are often viewed as inferior or as a villain.
Stepfathers are usually not often viewed as nice due to conflicting backgrounds of the child and parent. There are other challenges for a stepparent to face when confronting their new children as written in Raising a stepchild by Raising Children Network. These conflicts written down are: confronting myths, getting along with each other, living day by day, handling extra stress, and maintaining discipline. Given also in the article are ways to help improve the tense situation at home.
Adjusting to a new family will be hard unless a friendly environment is developed by the parents and children. Even with the solutions evenly distributed with the parents, the father-figure, the stepfather is still best to give discipline,comfort and understanding when the child has done wrong or is in trouble for whatever reason.
One article,"What We Know About the Role of the Stepparent" by Kay Pasley, David Dollahite, and Marilyn Ihinger-Tallman , supports that stepparents should create a friendly and warm atmosphere before attempting to create a disciplinarian model in the home. "Findings also indicate that conflict between stepparents and stepchildren commonly occurs when stepfathers supported their spouse's attempts to enforce rules..."
The article also states that authoritative parenting was effective on stepfather-stepson relationship, but no parenting behavior was effective for stepfather-stepdaughter relationships. My assumption would be for the daughter's past and hurt feelings or possibly due to prejudice assumption on stepparents would hinder the affection or discipline being carried by the stepfather. My inexperience advice would be for the stepdaughter to give their stepfather a chance and let go of the prejudice assumption of stepparents.
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Post 8: Fathers and Daughters
Katie giggles as she waits for her date to come around and open the car door. The pair enters an ice cream shop. She sits down at the table as her date gently pushes in her chair. He takes her hand from across the table and asks, "What flavor would you like tonight, Sugar?" Katie smiles and says, "I'll have chocolate, Daddy." ( From 'A Date with Dad' by LynneThompson, and Cheryl Gochnauer)
Have you ever thought that a father can influence his daughter on who she will choose to be her boyfriend or, later on, her spouse? Well believe it or not, they do.Fathers have the power to affect the standard of their daughters find for their life-long partner.
"A 50 year-old woman may look like an adult on the outside, but on the inside she is still working on issues that should have been attended to by a healthy, engaged father." states Dr. Ken Canfield, speaker and author of Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers and The Heart of a Father, being quoted from Father Daughter Relationships. He also states that fathers whose daughters are now in their adulthood act that it's too late and most just simply do nothing.
Daughters who don't have a healthy engaged relationship with and by their fathers often struggle relating to the other sex, and ultimately their relationships. I would assume that seeing their father treat their mother well, be all sweet to her, dating her, and the father himself doing these thing to his daughter would set her expectations for the man she would choose as her spouse.
John Mayer understood the concept and applied it in his song Daughters.
Baylor University conducted a survey, summarized by Schelly entitled 'Family: Fathers, Daughters', consisting of 43 fathers and 43 daughters, at least 22 of age, asking what was their most memorable time together. Among the daughters' most common answers playing sports, working together, and during vacation times. Sports was also the most mentioned activity among the fathers', but the second most memorable time for them was the marriage of their own daughter.
There were also a number of tips presented from various blogs to help fathers develop a true and sincere relationship with their own daughter. These tips consists of casual friendly activities, self-sacrificial deed, occasional family activities, and personal dates.
Have you ever thought that a father can influence his daughter on who she will choose to be her boyfriend or, later on, her spouse? Well believe it or not, they do.Fathers have the power to affect the standard of their daughters find for their life-long partner.
"A 50 year-old woman may look like an adult on the outside, but on the inside she is still working on issues that should have been attended to by a healthy, engaged father." states Dr. Ken Canfield, speaker and author of Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers and The Heart of a Father, being quoted from Father Daughter Relationships. He also states that fathers whose daughters are now in their adulthood act that it's too late and most just simply do nothing.
Daughters who don't have a healthy engaged relationship with and by their fathers often struggle relating to the other sex, and ultimately their relationships. I would assume that seeing their father treat their mother well, be all sweet to her, dating her, and the father himself doing these thing to his daughter would set her expectations for the man she would choose as her spouse.
John Mayer understood the concept and applied it in his song Daughters.
Baylor University conducted a survey, summarized by Schelly entitled 'Family: Fathers, Daughters', consisting of 43 fathers and 43 daughters, at least 22 of age, asking what was their most memorable time together. Among the daughters' most common answers playing sports, working together, and during vacation times. Sports was also the most mentioned activity among the fathers', but the second most memorable time for them was the marriage of their own daughter.
There were also a number of tips presented from various blogs to help fathers develop a true and sincere relationship with their own daughter. These tips consists of casual friendly activities, self-sacrificial deed, occasional family activities, and personal dates.
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