Have you ever thought that a father can influence his daughter on who she will choose to be her boyfriend or, later on, her spouse? Well believe it or not, they do.Fathers have the power to affect the standard of their daughters find for their life-long partner.
"A 50 year-old woman may look like an adult on the outside, but on the inside she is still working on issues that should have been attended to by a healthy, engaged father." states Dr. Ken Canfield, speaker and author of Seven Secrets of Effective Fathers and The Heart of a Father, being quoted from Father Daughter Relationships. He also states that fathers whose daughters are now in their adulthood act that it's too late and most just simply do nothing.
Daughters who don't have a healthy engaged relationship with and by their fathers often struggle relating to the other sex, and ultimately their relationships. I would assume that seeing their father treat their mother well, be all sweet to her, dating her, and the father himself doing these thing to his daughter would set her expectations for the man she would choose as her spouse.
John Mayer understood the concept and applied it in his song Daughters.
Baylor University conducted a survey, summarized by Schelly entitled 'Family: Fathers, Daughters', consisting of 43 fathers and 43 daughters, at least 22 of age, asking what was their most memorable time together. Among the daughters' most common answers playing sports, working together, and during vacation times. Sports was also the most mentioned activity among the fathers', but the second most memorable time for them was the marriage of their own daughter.
There were also a number of tips presented from various blogs to help fathers develop a true and sincere relationship with their own daughter. These tips consists of casual friendly activities, self-sacrificial deed, occasional family activities, and personal dates.
No comments:
Post a Comment