Post 4: The Impact of a Father's Love

What is love? You might be thinking of a certain song and headbanging in a particular way. Some might define love with honesty, kindness, joy, generosity, and loyalty altogether. It may even be described as something selfless to the point of death.Love to some is like a cloud, some as strong as steel, for some a way of living, for some a way to feel (John Denver "Perhaps Love").

However you may describe love, it will always have an intimate relationship with each other and undivided attention and concern for each other; a father's love will greatly affect their child in confidence, self-respect and interpersonal relations. A child who feels accepted by their father will set their confidence and security to the society.

While researching on the topic, many of the articles including A Father's Love is One of the Greatest Influences on Personality Development cites that 36 studies consisting of 10,000 participants where rejection from the parents tend to feel more anxious or more hostile to society. One thing worth noticing is that "children and young adults are likely to pay more attention to whichever parent they perceive to have higher interpersonal power or prestige." In other words: children are more likely to look at the parent whom they believe is more influential.

Often times it is the fathers who are identified as the one who is the superior parent. If the father then rejects their child, the effects can and will affect their growth and development skills. Rejection is a horrible nightmare than has the same effect as physical pain but can be relived over again, like a video stuck in replay.

 

Belinda Elliott, writer of The Power of a Father's Love, expresses her gratitude to her father. She writes that because her father she know how a woman should be properly treated unlike other women who are easily flattered by faux Prince Charmings and end up worse than before. She continues with messaging the fathers that their children observes their fathers behave to other people.

An aspect for fathers loving their children would be being accepted by their fathers. With a father's love children will be well respected as they have a self-regard on themselves and would also have a deep gratitude to the parents that raised them. For a father to always love their children may not always be easy but there will be an exceedingly satisfying reward.